I think we’ve all been there. Endlessly scrolling through Instagram or paying through a magazine and seeing all of the beautiful, sculpted bodies that are unattainably perfect – wishing that somehow, some way, our bodies could ever look like that. Maybe you vow to eat less, workout more. Maybe you vow to not eat at all. But somehow, some way you will get that body.
Sound familiar? I know personally it’s the conversation I have with myself at least weekly, if not close to daily. I can notice as many blurred photoshop lines as I want and read as many models say “none of us looks like this in real life” as I want. At the end of the day, you’re still gonna look better than me, and I’m still gonna try to get there.
Why do we do this? Why do we look at other people and see they have “more” and try to live up to that impossible standard? Why do we compare ourselves. I’m sure part of it is that age old saying “the grass is always greener on the other side” but with the rise of social media there is an almost pathological need in some people to show off this unrealistic and untrue idea of how their life and body both are. A matching need of “this girl looks like this, so I HAVE to look like this” takes hold.
How do you beat it? You have to stop comparing yourself. So you’ve still gonna a little bit of chub, even when you suck in and yet your favorite fitness model has ab lines when she’s sitting down slouching. 1 you don’t know what went into taking that pic and 2 you’re not her. You will never be her. You need to stay in your own lane and learn how to be the best version of you.
How do you stop the mental comparisons? First off, remove yourself from situations where you find yourself feeling less than. Take a social media hiatus. Don’t hang around people who are constantly comparing themselves to you and make everything a challenge. It’s hard to cut those things off, but you will feel so relaxed when you finally do.
Like I said before, stay in your own lane. Right now your focus is on how you relate to everyone else. Focus on how you relate to you. Did you lift more weight today? Did you run your mile faster today? These are important milestones in your life, way more important than Fitness model Jenny’s 25th ab selfie this month. Focus on you and do you and you will see the happiness and results you are looking for.